Bedroom: Battleground Or Playground?
Pure Sex, part 3 of 5
When it comes to pure sex, the most important room in our homes is the bedroom. And how we manage and navigate that room says so much about how we manage and navigate our own lives. In this message, we will talk about how to keep the home fires burning so that they don’t end up burning out of control somewhere else. We will explain the design for the bedroom and the requirements for the bedroom that God has laid out from the beginning. Then we will look at how to enjoy the bedroom and supply some principles for creating an effective, enjoyable and beautiful sex life with your spouse.
Download the notes.“Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers.”
(Proverbs 5:15-17, NIV)
I. Entering the bedroom…
1) God created sex in beauty and innocence.
“Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib and brought her to Adam. ‘At last!’ Adam exclaimed. ‘She is part of my flesh and bone!’…Now although Adam and his wife were both naked, neither of them felt any shame.”
(Genesis 2:22-23, 25, NLT)
2) God reserves sex for a marriage commitment.
“This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”
(Genesis 2:24, NLT)
3) God desires sex to be pleasurable and satisfying.
“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer - may her breasts satisfy you, may you ever be captivated by her love.”
(Proverbs 5:18-19, NIV)
II. Enjoying the bedroom
1) It takes the right attitude of responsibility.
“Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband.”
(Hebrews 13:4, The Message)
“God…richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment.”
(1 Timothy 6:17, NIV)
“Use every part of your body to glorify God.”
(1 Corinthians 6:20, LB)
2) It takes the right atmosphere of romance.
“You have made me eager for love…”
(Song of Solomon 6:12, TEV)
(from the Song of Solomon)
| i. Pleasant fragrances | ii. Personal compliments |
| iii. Affectionate touching | iv. Sacred privacy |
| v. Attractive attire | vi. Intimate conversation |
| vii. Unhurried time | viii. Special places |
| ix. Exclusive commitment & relational security | |
“I want you to promise, O women…not to awaken love until the time is right.”
(Song of Solomon 8:4, NLT)
3) It takes the right approach of reciprocity.
“The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband also gives authority over his body to the wife.”
(1 Corinthians 7:3-4, NLT)
“You husbands must be careful of your wifes, being thoughtful of their needs…”
(1 Peter 3:7, LB)
“For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected, but all is to be received with a prayer of thanks.”
(1 Timothy 4:4, TEV)