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Balance in a sex-crazed society

Love, sex and relationships, part 4 of 4

Bedroom: battleground or playground?

I. Making the bedroom a battleground

Demonstrable facts about sex

1. Premarital sex decreases sexual satisfaction in marriage

2. Premarital sex decreases the fidelity rate in marriage.

3. Sex in dating almost always leads to a relational break–up

4. Living together before marriage increases the divorce rate

5. STD’s (including AIDS) can remain dormant for 10+ years yet can be passed on to others in intercourse during that time.

“ Run away from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18, NLT)

“ Can a man scoop fire into his lap and *not be burned? *”(Proverbs 6:27, NLT)

“But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.” (1 Corinthians 7:9, NLT)

II. Making the bedroom a playground

God’s Plan To Enjoying Sex

1. Begin with the right God–honoring attitude

“… honor God with your body…” (1 Corinthians 6:20b, NIV)

“Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage.” (Hebrews 13:4a, NLT)

“Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth…may you always be captivated by her love.”(Proverbs 5:18–19, NLT)

2. Create the right truly romantic atmosphere

“…You have made me… Eager for love…” (Song of Solomon 6:12, TEV)

  • Creating the right atmosphere (from Song of Solomon)
    • Safe privacy (8:14)
    • Special places (1:4, 7:12)
    • Unhurried time (2:17)
    • Nice fragrances (1:12, 4:10)
    • Deep compliments (1:15–16)
    • Intimate talking (4:1–5:1)
    • Attractive attire (1:10-11)
    • Affectionate touching (2:6)
    • Personal friendship (5:16)
    • Total love commitment (8:6–7)

3. Pursue the right mutually–pleasing ambition

“The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband also gives authority over his body to his wife.” (1 Corinthians 7:3–4, NLT)

“… Each should satisfy the other’s needs.”(1 Corinthians 7:3b, TEV)

“My lover is mine and I am his…”(Song of Solomon 2:16a, NIV)